20 Things I've Learned in My Early 20's


I'm officially half way into twenties! What! How? When did this happen? 

Funny story, I actually wrote this post around my 23rd birthday and it's been chilling in my drafts for the last two years. After a few tweaks it's finally seeing the light! The 20's are a time for growth, experimenting and learning. The early and mid 20's are especially filled with growing pains as we work our way from those awkward teenage years into full blown (and even more awkward) adulthood. Below are 20 things that I've had to learn the hard way, I hope this saves someone a bit of those growing pains or at least offers some company as we grit our teeth and work through it.
  1. You're going to feel lost and it's OK to feel unsatisfied with where you are.
  2. Beauty doesn't have to be painful, expensive or excessive.
  3.  Neither do periods. 
  4. Save as much as you can afford to. Set financial goals every month and met them. 
  5.  Stop being jealous of other peoples lives!
  6.  Be flexible. Make big plans then go with the flow.
  7.  Long distance relationships take work but they can work.
  8.  Wash kinky hair in sections or twists.  
  9.  Job hunting isn't always easy. It may take a little time and a lot of patience but you'll get there.
  10. Everyone expresses love differently but it's all equal. No, that's a lie it's not always equal but it doesn't have to be.
  11. Be a reliable person. Try to avoid making promises that know you can't or won't deliver on.
  12.  Not everyone you meet will like you and that's totally fine. You will not like everyone you meet and that is also fine. Be kind and show respect. Always.
  13.  Spend less time on social media. Log off for a bit and head outside for a walk, read a book or cook a meal.
  14. Do your best, be your best possible self.  Your best is good enough.
  15.  It's OK to say no without providing an explanation.
  16. Lists work! Make a note of  the goals you've set, the groceries you need to purchase, the books you want to read, the places you'd like to visit and movies you'd like to see. Write everything down and experience the gratification of ticking them off.
  17. Find a go to hairstyle and learn how to create it on your own. 
  18.  You and your friends will change.
  19.  Self love is important and may take different forms.
  20.  Revel in the now and worry less. Things will fall into place.  It's so easy to get caught up in laying tomorrow's foundation. Remember to enjoy today; go to that event, have the chocolate covered ice-cream bar, choose big, colorful hair, stay up a later than you should. You'll never be this young again.